Letting Go

by Ann M

One of the most painful things we have to do in our lives is Letting Go.

Sometimes it is Letting Go of things...material things which mean a lot to us, because of sentimental value.

It may mean Letting Go of feelings. When we hold sadness inside, and try to mask it with only a show of happiness, it is better to feel the sadness so it washes through us then Let it Go. A good cry can be cleansing.

One of the best things to do in our lives is Letting Go of anger and hurt caused by others. We need to find it in our hearts to forgive lovingly. The anger and hurt we hold inside only poisons us, and causes us to allow that person or persons to control our feelings. I have heard of people who have been hurt far worse than I could ever imagine, yet they found it in their hearts to forgive, with love, and let go. They found a freedom within that allowed them to soar like an eagle. I have found peace by forgiving others who have hurt me, and I pray they have found peace within themselves.

Sometimes, we have to let go of someone we care for very deeply when we realize that person does not care for us in the same way. Maybe it is best to leave them remembering us with whatever kind of feeling they do have for us. It may not be possible to hide our own deeper feelings for that person, which could make their life uncomfortable. Letting Go may be the best gift we can give them because they may realize how we feel, yet care enough not to

want to hurt us.

Even when we know a relationship is not right, on both sides, or one person has a doubt about it, it is hard to let go of something that seems secure. We often accept less than the best because we can’t bear to let go.

There are occasions when we feel something wonderful for someone, but we don’t express it for fear of being rejected. Sometimes our feelings will be rejected. Yet, what if we withhold it from the one person who could very well be that One Special Someone in our lives and they too have been afraid to express their true feelings, or don’t even realize their true feelings yet! How sad that we may miss The Best for fear of Letting Go of the expression of those feelings.

Whatever the reason, or situation, it is never easy Letting Go.

放手

作者：安 玛奎特 翻译：影SHADOW

在愈合心灵伤口的过程中，放手是一份任何时候都可以给出的礼物， 可以放手他人，也可以放过自己。

放手时我们一生中最痛苦的事情之一。

有时我们得放手的看起来是物质，而实质放开的是感情，因为这是一些对我们感情意义重大的物质。当我们将悲伤藏在内心，并试图用幸福来掩饰它，还不如去感受悲伤，让它从内心冲洗而过，如借助一场痛彻的哭泣任它而去。

我们生活中最有益的事情之一就是在内心找到并以慈悲和宽恕的心怀来放开别人造成的愤怒和受伤情绪。我们内在的愤怒和伤害只会让我们中毒，并导致个人或多个人控制我们的感情。有人遭受过超出想象的伤害，但是他们能在心中发现，会原谅，会用爱的方式放手，因为他们找到了像鹰一样飞翔的自由。我们可以通过宽恕伤害我们的人找到和平，并为他们祈祷希望他们在自己内心深处也能找到平静。

有时，当我们意识到某人不会以像我们对他/她同样的方式来关心我们时，我们就不得不放下一个我们深深关心的人。也许最好是让他/她想有的感觉来记住我们，因为如果我们无法隐藏对那个人很深的感情，他们会感觉不自在。放手即可能是我们能送他/她最好的礼物。他们可能会意识到我们的感受，起码会不再能伤害我们。

即使我们知道有的关系双方都有问题，或者单方面有疑问，也很难放开一些看起来很让人有安全感的东西。往往我们因为不舍的放手而选择求其次。

有时我们会感到某人很美好，但由于害怕被拒绝而不会表达喜欢。然而如果我们拒绝一个可能是生活中很特别的一个人，而他/她也一直害怕表达自己的真实感受，或者还没有意识到自己的真实感受，那多难办啊！我们可能会因为害怕表达出自己的感情而错过生命中的最好，这是多么可悲。

无论什么原因和情况，放手都不容易。

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